Bi Visibility Day: You Do Not Have to Prove Who You Are

Bi Visibility Day is a celebration, but it also names something many bisexual and bi+ people know well: it is possible to be seen and still be misunderstood.

Bi people are often treated as though their identity depends on their current partner, as though they are confused, undecided or not queer enough. These messages can come from straight spaces and from within LGBTQIA+ communities. Repeated often enough, they can affect confidence, relationships and mental health.

Your identity is not a maths problem

You do not need equal dating experience with different genders. You do not need a particular relationship history. You do not stop being bi in a relationship that other people read as straight or gay. You are not responsible for making your identity easy for somebody else to understand.

• Believe people when they name their identity.

• Do not assume sexuality from a partner's gender.

• Challenge jokes about indecision, promiscuity or attention-seeking.

• Include bi people in LGBTQIA+ services, data and decision-making.

• Make room for people who use bi, pan, queer or more than one word for themselves.

Visibility should come with belonging

Being visible without being believed can be exhausting. Real inclusion means bi people are not treated as a footnote or asked to defend their place in the community.

At Be/Here, you do not need to arrive with a perfect label. Our therapists understand that identity can be certain, fluid, evolving or still being explored. You can bring the whole, complicated truth of your life.

Find out about LGBTQIA+-affirming therapy at Be/Here.